Relationship can be simply put as a state of being connected to someone. This means that for a relationship to be established, at least 2 people must be involved. To be connected to someone means the parties involved know each other and can easily tell what the other person wants or expects.
As believers, we are in a relationship with God and this relationship is described in different forms. God refers to us as His children (Romans 8:16), as joint heirs with Christ His son (Romans 8:17), as His Ambassador (2 Corinthians 5:20) amongst others. In our relationship with God, we are expected to know the things that God desires. He wants us to know Him and make Him known. This is why He made us His disciples first before telling us to go out to make disciples (Matthew 28:19).
Making of disciples is our service to Him however, bringing others into His light through His spirit is not our first call. Our first call is understanding who God is.
Luke 10:38-41 is the story of Mary and Martha which is popular among believers. Martha had a relationship with Christ which was why she invited Him to her house (Luke 10:38); and because of the relationship she had with Him, she could go to meet Him to tell her sister to join her in serving (Luke 10:40). However, Jesus’ response was for her not to get carried away with too much serving. He did not condemn her for serving, but told her to put a caution on serving.
When you are in a relationship with someone, the both of you grow together and this growth is made possible by spending time together. To serve Christ well, you need to have a thriving relationship with Him. Serving well is meeting His needs at the right time and in the right way.
There is a time for everything as seen in Ecclesiastes 3:1 which says,
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven”.
There is the time to serve and a time to sit to learn.
Martha was doing the right thing at the wrong time. What Jesus wanted at that time was for her to sit and learn from Him. The good part Jesus referred to in Luke 10:42 was the learning part; you learn before you can teach.
From the place of learning, you know what is expected of you and how to do it. Be sensitive to be able to differentiate a time of serving from a time of learning. Your place of service can be taken away from you but your relationship with Jesus and what you have learnt cannot be taken away from you except you allow it.
With Jesus, relationship comes before service. Strengthen your relationship with Him so you can know how to serve Him well. He is more interested in being in a relationship with you than being in the position of a master to you.
Put your relationship with Him first. Let it come before your service to Him. Make your race God.